I have been looking at information about Alfa Males.
A lot of it refers to aggressive, authoritarian men that have to be the center of attention and have as much authority, power and control over others as they can gain by any means.
Then I also looked at what the primatologists have to say and found a completely different opinion about what an Alfa really is and is not.
Primate alfa males are accepted as leaders by the members of their group because they can be relied upon to do whatever is required to protect and provide for the females and children. They gain and retain their role with the approval and support of other males in the hierarchy and also that of the more influential and respected FEMALES.
They do sometimes utilize their authority and power to protect members of their group from one another and help maintain order and harmony but they do not intentionally bully, mistreat or abuse their other group members.
The Alfa may not be the physically strongest or fierce individual and is often quite empathetic as well as determined and brave in times of danger.
There are also females with similar characteristics that significantly influence the decisions and behavior of the Alfa male.
The Alfa male gets replaced when he fails in the role of protector, provider and effective leader of the tribe or he might be replaced because he died protecting the other members of the group. The Alfa role then passes to to another either by agreement or sometimes by the new one defeating the one that can no longer do the job.
My conclusion is the the people we tend to regard as Alfas ARE NOT. They mostly insecure, cowardly, fearful little wussy boys and girls that have to keep seeking attention, validation, authority, power and control to compensate for their weakness and insecurity. Their “persona” is a false disguise they put on to hide what is really inside them.
When I was young, I wanted to become a man but no-one told me what it was.
I found my answer in a poem called IF by Rudyard Kipling.
Maybe we should all read, remember and share it with our sons and our daughters?
https://uh.edu/~hwagan/pnl/if.pdf
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No Minister 
The Man In The Mirror is another PR.
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest
For he’s with you, clear to the end
And you’ve passed your most difficult, dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.
Right on but we have to be able to see who we really are with all out faults instead of what we like to think we are.
that’s what I have tried to do for a long long time and that reflection is becoming more clear to me now.
And here I was always thinking it was “ALPHA”.
Learn something new every day they say.
DAVID. Well spotted.
I’m not much of an Alfa male. More of a Lamborghini fulla.
Perhaps a very lucky fella? Vroom vroom.